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Why is my ex mad I moved on when he dumped me?

12.06.2025 03:07

Why is my ex mad I moved on when he dumped me?

If you “moved on” with someone who was a mutual supposed friend, your ex is likely to feel betrayed on two sides of his life.

If you “moved on” ostentatiously, so as to more or less flaunt your replacement for him, or to show him and everyone else the two of you know, that you think so little of him that he could be replaced by literally anyone, any ex would logically get angry at the intentional insult.

If you moved fast, it’s logical for an ex to suspect that the new person was already “involved” with you, while you claimed to be loyal.

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If he’s in pain that the two of you broke up, which most grown-up people are, and you appear to be unaffected by the breakup at all, again, your “moving on comfortably” would imply that he was meaningless to you, and again, anger would be logical, albeit unfortunate.

Not enough detail, for an accurate answer.

I see the leading responses calling your ex various rude names or accusing him of childish immaturity, but I’ve seen enough different people in the world to know better than to jump to snotty conclusions, especially without evidence.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

How fast, and with who, and how did you do your “moving on?”